KNYSNA – With Valentine’s Day just around the corner on Saturday 14 February, love is in the air.
But don’t let your heart run away with your purse, and be especially wary of fraudsters who express undying love in a cyber romance.
John Alexander of Royal Investigations, who specialises in investigating such cases, has issued a warning ahead of Valentine’s Day when romance scams become increasingly prevalent. “Over the past year, we have observed a significant rise in romance scam cases, with online dating platforms being a primary hunting ground for fraudsters,” he said.
He warned the public to exercise extreme caution when engaging in online dating and romantic interactions during this period. “Protect your heart, your emotions, and your finances. Romance should bring joy, not exploitation,” he said.
Scammers
Studies showed that nearly 45% of users on some platforms may be scammers, often targeting vulnerable individuals, especially women.
Alexander said a 2024 survey indicated that 53% of men and 47% of women reported being victims of romance scams.
“I would estimate, conservatively, that between 60% and 75% of users on dating websites are involved in romance scams,” said Alexander.
He said most such scams in South Africa involve perpetrators operating under false identities, often using fake accounts and claiming foreign nationalities.
“These criminals exploit users’ trust and emotions to solicit money, gifts or personal information, with the main perpetrators identified as Nigerian nationals.”
He noted that many online dating platforms operate free of charge to users, generating revenue through subscription fees, advertisements and commissions.
“Unfortunately, user safety is often secondary to profit, leaving many vulnerable to exploitation. Despite South Africa’s strong legal framework, including the Cybercrime Act, enforcement remains limited.
International platforms, such as Tinder, often cite jurisdictional challenges and do not fully comply with local law enforcement or court orders, prioritising ‘user privacy’ over crime prevention and combatting,” said Alexander.

Red flags
He warned of red flags such as rapid emotional attachment or declarations of love within a short period; requests for money, gifts or financial assistance, especially under urgent or emotional circumstances; inconsistencies in the personal stories or background details; and accounts that have limited friends, photos or social media presence.
Alexander suggested tips for protection:
- Verify profiles before engaging – use reverse image searches and confirm social media presence.
- Never send money or share financial information with someone you’ve met online.
- Do not engage in in-person meetings or video calls.
- Be cautious of anyone claiming to be abroad or facing a personal crisis.
- Report suspicious activity to the dating platform and to authorities immediately.
- Educate friends and family about the risks of online romance scams.
